I am probably a stranger on the internet to you or maybe I am someone you know. Either way, I am writing this from the core of my heart, as if something in me is urging me to write it out. While I believe in carrying out such emotions, I am kind of sceptical about sharing details that I have not shared before. But I am still inclined to write it out. Hopefully it can help someone who is hurting like I was.
Why You Should Not Give Up!
You should not give up, you cannot. Just don’t allow yourself to ever raise the white flag when it comes to life. Whatever you are struggling with right now, it’s hard, it’s painful, you probably have every reason to not try anymore, but DON’T. GIVE. UP.
I really believe that I have been way too depressed in life, so much so that I never thought I could be happy again as if God had forsaken me and I just couldn’t go on. Living just did not make any sense. Just when I thought life could not get any worse, it did. But then it also got better. Honest to God, I often smile thinking back to how all that I am now was just a vague dream that I didn’t have the courage to even believe in.
It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.
Aristotle
If you are trying to keep going and are looking for reasons why you should not give up, then let me tell you why. I have given up so intensely, like I literally stopped trying to do anything in life due to how I felt, so I have been there done that! I gave up hope and willingness to do anything in life for years and years. It felt terrible and honestly, it did nothing for me.
Giving up did not make anything less painful and neither did it make me feel better about anything. On the contrary, I remember feeling worse. Then I was like ‘Alright, this is clearly not working for me. Might as well try to make things work and see how that goes.’ And dude, it is still going and it feels AMAZING!! It is an uphill battle at times but it is a very rewarding one, I must tell you that.
Give up tomorrow
Just put one foot in front of the other. Tell yourself that you will give up tomorrow and then tomorrow tell yourself the same thing. Something will click along the way that will make it worthwhile and will also give you the motivation to keep going. Till then, you have to push yourself. I promise you that there will come a day, actually many days, where you will be glad that you did not give up.
Your Mind Believes Everything You Tell It
Do you believe that your mind absorbs everything you think? I really believe that your mind accepts whatever you tell it as the truth. This means that if you are struggling with particularly negative thoughts, then that is what the mind will believe. It will believe that ‘you are not good enough’ or that ‘you are not worthy’.
I have actually tried this with my brain and you can try it too. It will eat up anything that you throw it’s away. The thing to remember is that the brain will start believing a positive narration just as it did with the negative one. If you tell yourself that you have got this and that you are good enough, that is how you will ultimately feel.
We criticize ourselves so much that when we try to compliment instead, it feels almost unnatural. Imagine that! But all good start internally. You have to start talking positively and you will start believing it too.
It pains me to think so many people could be in a position where they don’t feel good enough. But then again this can be overcome with a little bit of patience and practice, I promise!
Just to summarize, if you feel like you are at rock bottom and want to give up trying and just wait for death then it is going to be a miserable wait. But if you try to be a little patient and polite to yourself, then you can turn your life around. You are already at rock bottom, there is only one way out and it goes upwards!
You know, all those times that I had heard some person say that they believed in themselves or something??, I used to think it was utter bullshit and quite narcissistic. But wow does it really work!! It works, it actually works!! Just imagine- a healthier, happier, and more confident version of you.
All of that is achievable. It is not easy, but honestly, it is not that hard either, especially if the prize is literally a better and happier version of you. Please, just keep on trying. It will get better I promise you. When you start feeling better and tap into this other confident and happy side of yourself, I am so sure you will be happy that you didn’t give up.
Just be kind to yourself. It is our mind and body that we have to live with our whole lives, might as well be nice to each other!
